Clock & Compass

Clock & Compass:

Last Sunday my Father was at home, and I was in my study table going through my daily morning ritual of studying my school books, since the school is at vacation, I have kept my study table clean which otherwise usually always remain cluttered with books and notes lying over here and there. My father came close to me and looked at the new Clock hanging above the table, and said ,,,beautiful Clock….I smiled and said …my choice. He stood near me looked around the table, on the wall where posters of Hanna Montana, my school routine, Goal Sheet, and many things was sticked,,,,,,but he said one important thing is missing “Dudu”(my pet name). I usually listen to my father more than asking becoz once he said it is God’s natural law that God has given you two ears and one mouth i.e. listen twice as much as you speak. I looked up around and said, Papa I think everything important is there. He smiled and said you have the Clock, but you do not have the Compass,,,,I said it is in the pencil box,,,he burst into laughter and said Compass is not that.

He explained that most of us are afraid to be ourselves, so we usually give up our own dreams to follow the Crowd,,,,we see so many genius people on this earth but it is not the sole domain of a rare group or a certain breed of person, we all of us are capable to be genius if we so choose to be one. The important thing is identifying our talent,,,,,,same message is conveyed by the movie “Three Idiot” also, if we focus on any area or skill with relentless devotion with daily improvement and a passion for excellence you will definitely reach the pinnacle of success.

Now coming to Clock and Compass,,,,he said that in humans struggle to live on this earth and put things in order there is two powerful tools that direct us…..The Clock & Compass. The clock represents our commitments, appointments, schedules, Goals (which I have mentioned in my earlier postings), activities, ,,,,,,,what we do with and how we manage our time. The Compass represents our vision, values, principles, mission, conscience, direction,,,,,what we feel is important and how we lead our life.

He said that since you do not have the Compass you will feel a sense of Gap between the Clock and the Compass,,,and since we truly do not understand the gap between the clock and the compass in our lives, we turn for “time management” by looking at the Clock,,,,,heee, hee Study time, Swimming Time, Facebook Time, etc etc,,,,

Compass

1.Vision-It is nothing but seeing with our mind’s eye what is possible within us, to execute a project, cause and in any enterprise. Vision results when our mind joins need with possibility.

2. Values-Values are social norms-they are personal, emotional, subjective and arguable. All of us have values, even criminals, terrorist have values. The questions we must ask is are our values based on principles?

3. Principal-It is universal natural law- transcends culture, and are embodied in all major religions and enduring philosophies, second, they are timeless-they never change, and third, they are self evident.

4. Mission-A mission statement answers the question, "Why do we exist?"Change is Constant……Creating a mission statement is not something you do overnight. It takes deep introspection, careful analysis, thoughtful expression, and often many rewrites to produce it in final form. It may take you several weeks or even months before you feel really comfortable with your mission statement, before you feel it is complete and concise expression of your innermost values and directions. Even then, you will want to review it regularly and make minor changes as the years bring additional insights or changing circumstances.

5. Conscience-Listening to our inner self, it is the inward moral sense of what is right and what is wrong, the urge to drive towards meaning and contribution. It is the guiding force to Vision, discipline and passion,

So Papa said, to be successful in life you need a “Compass” which is very important and above all it is never too late to become the person you have always dreamed of being,,,so lay claim to your natural genius and to your greatness, and drive a stake to mark your place under the sun, stop being a prisoner of your past and become the architect of your future…..but always be bold to say “NO” if your conscience say so, because every time you say YES to something that is unimportant, you say “NO” to something that is important,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,so Clock without Compass is worthless……..something like you know the time but do not know where to go,,,,,,,,,,,,,,.

*Reference from Dr Steven Coveys “First Thing First”

*Robin Sharma: The Monk who Sold his Ferrari

* My Father

Goal Goal

GOAL GOAL………….

Goal Goal Goal,,,,,,,,Last few week the whole world was in the grip of Goal, the Football World Cup, and the ultimate results of any match comes from the Goal, added to the Goal was the Waka waka….which spelled such a magic that Goal and Waka, waka became synonymous with each other……but very few of us give that importance to the GOAL of our own life. Goal is always associated with GROW, example the list of winning team for World cup has Grown, two new team is added in the final and Spain is added in the list of winner. Now in our practical life “GROW” plays a very important role, GROW is an acronym standing for “Goal - Reality - Options – Will”

A useful metaphor for the GROW model is the plan we might make for an important journey. First, we should start with a map. With this, we decide where we are going (our Goal) and establish where we currently are (our Current Reality). Then we explore various ways (the Options) of making the journey. In the final step, establishing the Will, we ensure how much we are committed to making the journey and are prepared for the conditions and obstacles we may meet on our way.

Interestingly, goal commitment and difficulty often work together. The harder the goal, the more commitment is required. If we have an easy goal, we don't need a lot of motivation to get it done. When we are working on a difficult assignment, we will likely encounter challenges that require a deeper source of inspiration and incentive. That is why our Goal should be always SMART,,,,,,few day back, I have given a status in Face book regarding SMART,,,,,,,and many of my friends have given various definition, but only one friend have given the right definition “Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time bound” . In attaining our Goal we should always be Specific with a time frame (Measurable) and should be within our reach according to our capacity i.e. if a student of arts try to be Scientist it is not attainable, so Goal should be (Attainable), and above all realistically Relevant, not outdated, should suit the present day world. And the most important factor is (Time bound), Goals are set on a number of different levels: First we create our "big picture" of what we want to do with our life, and decide what large-scale goals we want to achieve. Second, we break these down into the smaller and smaller targets that we must hit so that we reach our lifetime goals. Finally, once we have our plan, we start working to achieve it, and then only we can say SMART GOAL along with GROW.

By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, we can measure and take pride in the achievement of those goals. We can see forward progress in what might previously have seemed a long pointless grind. By setting goals, we also raise our self-confidence, as we recognize our ability and competence in achieving the goals that we have set, then only the real GOAL of our life we can achieve and dance to the tune of Waka Waka………

I Think..........

Exam, thank God, my exam is over, The phobia of exam is such that, every day as soon as the paper is finished, the first call I would receive is from my mother enquiring about the paper,,,,and she would say me Dudu,,,,,,how was your exam,,,,,how much you will get, was everything fine in the paper…..then the stream of call will start,,,,,my Father,,,,,straight to percentage, either he will start from 95 percent or 20 percent, then my aunt (pahi), Koka, Aita,(Grandpa/ Garandmaa), my mother’s sister (Mahi),,,,her son,,,,and the streams of call will go on and on…..and the tension barometer of my body would go up to the boiling point.

I was wondering, actually when we are in the process of growing up, what we learn about success, is that we always must excel in our studies. We must always work hard in order to achieve it, right? We need to work long and hard get good grades, in order to get high-paying job. Now that thought has become so engrained in our materialistic society that if any one try to think a different path or think out of the box, his or her path is always viewed as failures. If we didn't get good grades in school, we were reprimanded by your teachers and parents, and even made fun of by your peers. Even worse, we are prevented from moving into a higher grade. If we didn't get into college, our parents were disappointed and our friends felt sorry for us. If we haven't gotten a medium to high-paying job at a reputable company with a prestigious title, it can be almost shameful.

When we see someone, who has lost their job, or who, although qualified, has been unable to find a "decent" job. What kind of emotions does a person in this situation usually feel? Fear? Like a failure? Resentment? Shame? Yes. These are all emotions that many feel if they do not fit in to society's definition of success.

So in order to avoid feeling these emotions - to avoid feelings of fear, failure, shame, lack of security, and resentment - many go through life working hard and long to avoid failure, rather than achieve success. This is a major difference between those who ultimately achieve success and those who do not!

I personally coined a term FFS (Fear of Failure Syndrome) I feel that one who goes through life trying to avoid failure will find it very hard to achieve true success. The majority of people are trying to achieve success in their lives by avoiding failure. What do they focus on? They focus on anything that could go wrong in situation, anything that could cause loss or defeat. Or in another modern day language we can call Plastic Knowledge, Disposable Knowledge, which lacks the basic foundation of Principal,,,,in every sphere we use our knowledge giving top priority for our personal benefit, then comes society, nation, environment.

These type of knowledge who calls themselves "know-it-alls", the first ones to try and discourage you from taking a risk. In fact, they hate the word "risk", they run from it. Yet they think they are successful, because they have never failed. You know why they have never failed? Because they have never tried to succeed!

These are the ones that focus on all that appears to be impossible, and what they focus on becomes their world. They constantly say things like, "That would never work!" or "That's impossible." Or, they settle for what they already have and make excuses in saying things like, "I'm comfortable where I am," but deep down inside they long for more.

So what happens when opportunity comes knocking on the door?

1. They don't hear the knock at all, because they're fast asleep; Or
2. They hear the knock, open the door, only to slam the door in opportunity's face, because they looked for and found 1 thing that "could be" flawed in what opportunity had to offer, while ignoring the other 99 benefits that would make that flaw utterly insignificant.

In so doing, those who avoid failure also avoid success. They stay in their comfort zone refusing to risk anything to be successful, hoping that the perfect "big break" will one day come along and save the day.

YOU control your mind.

YOUR MIND controls your ACTIONS.

Your actions determine the type of life you will lead.

Your dominating thoughts become your world.

Your dominating thoughts ARE your world.

You create it with your thoughts. We do not say that by just sitting there and day dreaming any one can become successful or rich. To say so would be plain stupidity. But we believe that your reality is a projection of your thoughts that are in harmony with yourself and your actions.

Our thoughts have a power of their own. If we can understand and utilize them properly, we can accomplish a lot more in our lives. Our thoughts and our state of being go hand in hand and together they create the experience we call life. Positive thoughts create a positive life, bringing us its rich rewards. Negative thoughts do the same thing in a negative way.

An idle life is a product of morbid thoughts. A mind fired by the power of imagination and the desire to achieve cannot produce idle life. If one knows the secrets of thought power and can harmonize ones being with them, corresponding effort would follow and bring in corresponding results. Having energized his thoughts with determination, clear thinking and purpose, it is difficult for any one to sit idle and day dream. His energized thoughts would drive him into action and make him work for his goals.

It is very much true that we create our reality. No one else does it for us. Others can interfere with our lives in a limited way. In the first place they cannot do so without our permission and willingness. The healing thoughts that come to us from outside also can work upon us only with our permission, when we are in a state of receptivity, and are willingly seeking some help from someone or somewhere.

Otherwise, we build our lives completely on our own, with our thoughts and ideas, our goals and desires, our feelings and emotions, our fears and expectations and our behavior and actions. Others come into this drama through our thoughts only. If you know how to make your thoughts work for you, you will accomplish much more in your life than otherwise.

Therefore, before we expect our undertakings to be successful, we must pour into them required energies and resources, not necessarily ours only, but of others as well. Through the magic of our thoughts we can seek the willing cooperation of others also. But we cannot do this by forcing others with our thoughts, but by making ourselves more amenable and acceptable so that we can influence them in a persuasive way for the common good of all. We may employ a thousand people, but we will not get the positive energy of their thoughts unless they are disposed towards us positively. The synergy of a team effort is truly the synergy of the thoughts generated by the team collectively.

With the power of our positive thoughts we can give a definite shape to our efforts and with the power of our sustained efforts we can bring our thoughts into surface reality. This is the underlying mechanism in any successful accomplishment. What we call the planning stage in any venture, is actually a mental exercise during which we give a mental shape to the project with our thought energies and prepare ourselves for the journey ahead.

Our thoughts are therefore our true assets, the raw material with which we build our wealth, the source of all our possibilities and accomplishments. To build something in the physical world, we need to build it successfully in the mental world. Any one who can think clearly and confidently on any project before he actually begins it, stands a better chance of succeeding in his life. In myriad ways, using his thoughts, he can set into motion what he truly desires. By empowering his thoughts, he can create the reality he genuinely wants to experience.

The secret of your life is that your life is shaped by the combined power of your thoughts, your desires and your actions. If you aim for something in your life, which is within the realm of possibility, with determination, and sincerely work for it with perseverance, you will achieve it. If you aim to become something in you life, without any inner conflict, and believe that you can truly transform yourself into that situation with necessary sacrifices, you are going to be that. This is the reality. WE ARE WHAT WE THINK AND BELIEVE TO BE.